Well…not really. At least not according to this report titled ‘What Women Want and How They Can Get It’.The “overwhelming majority of women do not want to commit full-time to a job” says Cristina Odone the report’s author.
Ms. Odone also said notions of women’s progress over the past decade have been measured by the “wrong” things, such as more women in top jobs, a shrinking earnings gap and better state-funded childcare.
Victoria blogged on netmums and said:
“Why is being a full-time mother seen as such a lowly way to spend the day. It’s bad enough being looked down on by men who think you must be stupid to not have a job but I think the reaction from women, even my own friends, is worse. I’m always hearing ‘well, it’s ok for you, some of us have to work!'”
However this was an interesting response on the same blog from Tracey:
“…I work full-time and have two children – one at school, one at nursery. That’s my choice. I often envy SAHM (Stay At Home Mums) and wish I could want to do it. But I can’t, I am the way I am and that’s it. I also find it MUCH harder work to be at home through half term etc, as children are sooooo demanding, love them as I do.”
This report in the US says that despite being overstretched and feeling constant guilt, working mums are happy with their lives. The report also found that 75 percent of Americans reject the idea that a woman’s place is in the home.
This hits home in so many ways, I can’t begin to tell you! My mother is – well- was a high achieving workaholic. My childhood memories of mommy is of her on our dining table at five in the morning with her books and papers all spread out.
She’d wake up before dawn to put a couple of hours of studying before waking me and my sister up to get ready for school and then go to her job teaching at the University of Alexandria , come back prepare a meal for us get our school work done and then do her own studying.
She managed a Masters, a PHD, and a scholarship to the USA that opened doors not just for her but the entire family. I’m not using this as a chance to brag about my mother much as I love to. But with all those achievements came an endless amount of stress and worrying that was transferred to me and my sister all the time. I remember when my mum got her PhD, Shaza my sister wanted to burn all the books ‘because they made mommy sad.’
And now at fifty something, mom gave all of this up. Just like that, and just when she was about to get head of department she decided she’d had enough! I really didn’t understand her and when talking about my career ambitions with her one time she said ‘ I notice you don’t mention babies, why not? Afterall this is the most important job for you.’ I couldn’t believe it when she told me that and ended the conversation then there. That was three years ago and we don’t talk about it anymore.
I don’t have children so I can’t really say what I’d like to do if I did. But My best friend does and she works full-time and has told me so many times that she’d rather stay at home but can’t afford to.
Have we as a society failed to strike a family balance? Why is it difficult for some mothers to choose not to work now? Do you measure a woman’s achievement by her position at work or her successes with her family?