I am getting married this weekend and I know how hard preparing guest lists can be. So I cannot imagine how this couple felt when one of their guests, the British MP Jim Fitzpatrick, turned up with his wife at the Muslim ceremony only to walk out when he discovered that men and women would be segregated.
” I don’t blame him” says Kia Abdullah who had a segregated wedding herself.
“It shows a lack of interest… to engage with people of different backgrounds,” says Sir Iqbal Sacranie, the former head of the Muslim Council of Britain. But how far should you go to engage with people of different backgrounds?
This isn’t just about Islamic customs or even about weddings. I’ve had several messages from my non-Hindu friends who will be attending my wedding asking what they should and shouldn’t wear (cleavage and legs are fine) and what they should and shouldn’t do (drink alcohol is fine, eating meat is not) and I’ve really welcomed their interest.
We’re not disputing whether or not you should respect another culture, but where do you draw the line? Where do you do what you want at the risk of offending others?