Otto Baxter is like most 21 year old guys – he wants to find a girlfriend and have sex. Unlike most other 21 year olds, he has Down’s syndrome. His mum Lucy says she’s “working overtime to get this sorted for him.” She’s appealing for women to come forward, and says she’d be happy if Otto wanted to visit a prostitute.
Lucy says “I can’t see that one can be a rounded individual in our society if you don’t participate in everything that we participate in,” and that includes sex. Should Lucy Baxter be placing such a big emphasis on finding sex for her son? Do we need sex to make us feel normal?
Sex therapist and advice columnist Dr Miriam Stoppard says she supports Lucy Baxter’s desire for her son to have sex like anyone else.
Over on the BBC’s disability site Ouch, Batgirl says: “it’s a little tasteless – not to mention a bit early – to start “working overtime” to find a prostitute for a desperate virginity-loss mission.”
There are all sorts of people who don’t have sex for all sorts of reasons. What about if you’re old? If you’re obese and struggle to find a partner, or if you chose to be celibate, do you feel incomplete because sex defines us? Is it society that has a hang up about people who are in any way different having sex?