‘It’s still taboo for women to express mixed feelings about motherhood, but many don’t find the idyll they’d been led to expect.’ If you’re a mother, does that ring true for you?
The quote is the opening line from an article by Eliane Glaser who works on one of the BBC’s most revered radio programmes Woman’s Hour. Tomorrow, the show will explore the difference between expectations of motherhood and the reality. And we’ll be talking about this on Wednesday.In her article Eliane writes:‘In the course of making a special edition of Woman’s Hour on motherhood, I found myself opening up a Pandora’s box of maternal ambivalence, with one ordinary, non-depressed mother after another describing how their own experience did not match up to the blissful idyll they had been led to expect. Many emphasised their intense love for their children, but also spoke of times when they found looking after them exhausting, lonely and mind-numbingly boring. ‘
If you’re a mother what’s your experience? Does what Eliane describes sound familiar? And who should be held responsible if there’s a divide between the way your society wants motherhood to be and what actually happens?
Joining us on Wednesday will be Liz Fraser, author of The Yummy Mummy’s Survival Guide. A mother of three and a former TV presenter, Liz has written a handbook for mothers who want to be yummy and not slummy. Liz also says she has a very low tolerance for women who complain about motherhood.
We’ll also be speaking to Sophie Hannah. Sophie is a mother of two and a successful author and her third book ‘The Point of Rescue’ deals with a mother who hates motherhood.